Friday, March 4, 2011
Okay, I know I post a lot joking around with sarcasm and/or added tongue-in-cheek drama. It makes for good reading. However, this is a serious post.
My true feelings on weight:
I'm just not that concerned with it.
I don't know what I weigh.
I don't even own a scale.
Sometimes, when I'm at my Mom's I get on hers, but the numbers don't affect my self esteem or my mood.; it just doesn't matter to me beyond a slight curiosity.
I think as women we tend to spend way too much time worrying about what other think about us. The fact is no one, no one, cares as much about your appearance as you do. (And if they do, whose business is it anyway? Certainly not theirs)
God made women- all women- with an inherent beauty that cannot be denied. I do not know another woman who doesn't have her own kind of beautiful. I have friends of every size, shape and color, and they are all lovely.
Our society has put so much pressure on us to be thin and live up to someone else's standard of beauty, that most of us can't see past it. I think the lie that we have to be something we are not distracts us from the happiness we could be having if only we would accept ourselves as we really are. God made us as we are; aren't we insulting Him by saying we are not good enough, not pretty enough, not thin enough, not tall enough, not smart enough, not tan enough? I think in a very real sense that that is the ugly voice of ingratitude speaking.
We are what we are. We don't have to be anything we aren't. If we can find satisfaction with what we have, it enables us to be filled with love and peace, rather than emptiness or longing. The woman who is truly happy with her life, is the one who can recognize her own blessings instead of being filled with envy towards others.
If we have bodies that are healthy, bodies that are able to function, able to serve, able to help us love and nurture, then we have good bodies. Period.
Why waste your life being unhappy and dissatisfied because of a cultural meme? What would your life be like if you didn't feel like you had to measure up to someone else's standard of beauty? Would you have more peace? More time to just love and be loved? Would you be kinder to you offspring (who remind you so much of yourself?) Kinder to your friends? Be a little nicer behind that skinny girl's back?
What can a thin lady do that an overweight one can't do? When I workout with my "Biggest Loser" videos, the contestants kick my butt. And I love them for it. This life comes at you fast; it's over before you know it. I want to spend the rest of my life happy, taking care of myself and my own. I don't want to die and realize I never really was living because I was so concerned with what other people were thinking that I was never fully present in my own life. I just want to enjoy things as they are, and live in the moment, no matter what my size is.
God is not proud...He will have us even though we have shown that we prefer everything else to Him.-- CS Lewis